Depression and helplessness usually go hand in hand. However we all come across feelings of depression and helplessness to some degree or another at some point during our life. This is normal and perfectly fine as long as we get back on track and overcome these feelings. However for some, feelings of helplessness set in and begin to affect our way of thinking. This in turn then affects the quality of our life. Here are some helpful tips to help you understand those feelings of helplessness and how to overcome them.
Begin by identifying the problems, fears, issues and obstacles which make you feel helpless and try to discover why they make you feel this way. It is a good idea to write these down as they come to you, so you know what you need to work on. Also by writing things like this down it brings the awareness of the issue to our conscious mind. When we do this our conscious mind acknowledges the problems so then the subconscious mind can help us to find solutions. These issues then become easier to deal with.
Learn Ways To Cope
Work on ways that encourage you to take on new beliefs. These new beliefs can be that you can be independent, self-confident and are capable of dealing with anything that crops up in the future. Daily affirmations can help you to instill these new beliefs. Come up with your own affirmations that will keep you inspired to change.
Learn new ways to deal with these feelings of helplessness when they crop up. Make a list of different ways that you could handle these feelings.
Practice ways to deal with conflicts and problem solving when they arise.
If you start to get yourself on track and then begin to doubt yourself again, remember that this is only normal and pick back up from where you left off.
Make a small list of small daily goals that you know you can accomplish. Such as getting up by a certain time. Making your bed as soon as you get up. Whatever the success, however small be sure to reward yourself. If you don’t get through all of your list don’t beat yourself up about it. Just try again tomorrow.
Realize that change does not happen overnight. All good things take time. It will take time to change your thoughts and feelings of depression and helplessness so always strive to do the best you can, one day at a time.
A big mistake a lot of us make is aiming for perfection. Please don’t aim for perfection all the time. None of us are perfect and no one ever will be. It is just an illusion. We all make mistakes and that is just part of the journey. When we can learn to accept that, we can stop being so critical of ourselves.
Identify what you need to do to grow in the skills of self-coping, self-healing and self-confidence. Feelings of helplessness can cause us many problems in life, the longer you feel helpless, the less control you have over your own life.
Common experiences that occur through feelings of depression and helplessness.
You begin to feel that no matter what you do or how hard you try you
cannot succeed in life
Become over dependent on others around you to help you overcome your problems
See yourself as totally incompetent
You develop a deep-seated fear that you are unable to handle any situation
Become miserable, unhappy in life and depression sets in
You think of yourself as a victim that always needs rescuing from situations
Your outlook of life becomes very pessimistic in general
Your are afraid others see you as being frail and weak
You become despondent because you run out of people who are willing to look after you by solving your problems for you
Then you resign yourself to the fact that you will always be helpless, that you cannot possibly change.
I am here to tell you that you can.
Anyone can take back control of their life at any time they choose. No one else can help you or fix you until you make the decision to help yourself.
There are many ways you can help yourself overcome these feelings, the important thing to remember is that you are not alone. You can take back control over your life and make important decisions again to successfully solve your problems. All you need is to have faith in yourself and dig deep and find that faith and bring it to the surface. While we all have the ability to overcome our problems ourselves, it doesn’t hurt to get advice from friends and relatives as long as you aren’t relying on them totally to solve your
problems for you.